To the Mom Who Needs Strength Now

To the Mom Who Needs Strength Now

The job of a parent (especially a mom) is a hard one and has been for all of time.

Our shift starts when the kids wake up to the time they are (actually) asleep. And then we’re on call in the middle of the night and early mornings. Our brains run at super speeds all day. Then in order to rest for the night, we have to actively stop thinking and worrying.

We face challenges that leave us feeling helpless and out of control. And then we continue to blame ourselves for still not doing a good enough job.

Do you feel this way?

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Actual photo from my house….

To the Mom who needs strength to get through the week,

Your family is your entire world. It began very intimately in a way that made your heart whole. It was love at first sight. Soon these tiny people you love grew. They became independent from you and that was frustrating. Life started becoming chaotic. You could never just sit down and relax.

And you struggled a bit.

You struggled to be able to complete your to-do list; because you’re only one person and the to-do list is endless. You struggled in the ways of disciplining your children; because after all, comforting our kids comes more natural to us. You struggled to be heard; because your kids would rather play and have fun instead of listen to their parents. And you struggled to remember who you were before this beautiful family; because now this family is all of you.

I know you feel weak because you think that compared to other moms you aren’t doing as good of a job. You feel like you don’t live up to what your family needs. You continue pouring yourself into your family’s cup.

Have you ever stopped to think about just how much you do? It’s no wonder you’re stressed out, anxious, and tired! You give all of yourself, even when your cup appears to be completely dried out.

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Photo by Felix Russell-Saw on Unsplash

There is only one ‘you.’ No one can do your job like you. You were selected by our creator to be a mom for many special purposes. How amazingly awesome is that? That the same creator who created something as beautiful as a coral blazing sunset and microscopic fingerprints on the hands of your unborn baby, has also created you!

Your time on Earth is temporary. And even more so temporarily, is your time raising your children. I know, I know… every time I hear this, I cringe too. It feels like forever! We’re not that perfect, always-smiling, always together family, like you see on Instagram!

We have our moments! Parenting is hard for both moms and dads!

That is why we need to be strong! Life is threaded together. 

Your whole life, your whole marriage, your whole family, and everything that makes you who you are, are woven together in this thread of life. And if life begins to put too much pressure on us, the threads begin to fray, and finally snap.

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Photo by Terri Bleeker on Unsplash

And it’s natural for some parts of our life to fray. And pressure is natural. But the whole thread can withhold any pressure, with one key thread. This thread is in the center of all of the other threads. It is core. That one, is faith in God.

And if you really want to be a strong parent. A strong mom. Because I have seen a lot of strong women in my life- I can tell you, it’s because they have faith.

These amazingly strong and influential women have shed sweat, blood, and tears over their families. They are often times the people who have lost a lot, but continue to feel blessed.

These women pray over their families and friends like it’s their job. And you know when one of these women have prayed for you, because something in your life just changes. That’s because a mother’s prayer is (what I feel) probably the strongest, most emotionally involved prayers.

So, friend, if you need strength to get you through the week (or even just till the end of the day), your mother’s prayer will be heard. God will help you get through the week, whether you pray for 5 seconds, or hours through the night.

If you need extra energy, pray for that too. It’s worked for me in some of my most sluggish days. If you feel you have no control, seriously, hand it over to God.

Strengthen the core of your life.

You can do it, Momma!

Best Wishes!

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Photo by Mike Wilson on Unsplash

 

I will say a prayer for all of you who read this. If you’d like a special prayer, “like” or comment below.

Please share with your Mom friends (who especially need strength)!

The Tired Mom Fix (Besides Coffee)

The Tired Mom Fix (Besides Coffee)

To the tired Mom, you’re not alone!

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Photo by Kinga Cichewicz on Unsplash

When you’re routinely running low on fumes, is it possible that you need a bigger change? Do any of these 3 areas of your life sound like something you could work on?

  • Mental
  • Physical
  • Spiritual

Over the past year or two I’ve noticed a huge change in myself. I went from the kind of Mom who would create with our son; play dough figures and paint pretty pictures. I would take him on trips to the playground. We danced a lot together. And we were always laughing together. I was the fun Mom!

And then I became a Mom of 2 more amazing little boys! My heart was so full of happiness that we all had each other. I didn’t realize I could be so in love.

….Then one day the baby was mobile. And soon they all decided that things in our house are more fun if they’re flying through the air. And messes are good. The messier, the better. And who doesn’t love a rowdy boy? I mean, if Spider-man can climb walls, why can’t they?

So, I grew tired. There is still only one of me (when my husband goes to work). Some days I want to beg him not to leave me here with all the craziness. But I don’t.

It took me a long time to realize that there is no magic fix-all for any of that. But, I needed to fix my weary self. And I knew other tired Moms need to as well. So I created the 21 Day Challenge on my Facebook page, Mommas Group. This challenge was created to help tired Moms to become positive, energized, and reconnected. And over all, the goal is for you to feel rejuvenated.

All you need is 10-20 minutes a day minimum, or more if you need it.

 

The 21 Day Challenge is split up into 3 weekly smaller goals:

Week 1: Positive Mind

Week 2: Energize Body

Week 3: Reconnect Spiritually

 

Week 1: Positive Mind

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Photo by sergee bee on Unsplash
  • Be positive (Let go of the Mom guilt)
  • Get help (Chore charts & teamwork)
  • Organize (A clean and clear house allows the same in your mind)

A big portion of us being tired is trying to do too much. Although have the world’s greatest intentions, we compare ourselves all the time. So let go of Mom guilt! Things change, and we just have to “go with the flow.”

Then, write a to-do list and divide that baby up! You can do it!

Small kids: pick up clothes and toys and dust

Preschool-aged kids: wipe table, chairs, cabinets, appliances, and windows

Kindergarten-aged kids: sweep, mop, vacuum, take care of pets, make their bed

Older kids: clean the toilet, wash dishes, and fold laundry

And lastly, clean up social media and emails (opt out of those subscriptions causing you to be distracted and unfriend negative people). Then organize an area of your house that really needs attention. It may just free up that nagging feeling every time you see that mess!

 

Week 2: Energize Body

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Photo by Roberto Nickson (@g) on Unsplash

Make sure you’re putting nutritious food into your body. And swap out the juice and pop for water. Keep healthy snacks on hand like almonds, berries, apples, carrot sticks, cut up celery and cucumbers…. Making simple switches can dramatically change how you feel.

Enjoy a detox bath with essential oil and epsom salt (only try this once this week, while drinking plenty of water). 20 minutes of exercise per day will get your blood circulating and release endorphins, which is alsoo a plus. You’re looking for a good sweat, though, to detox. Make sure to hydrate well!

No skimping on sleep either. You need 7-9 hours! According to sleepfoundation.org, the right amount of sleep can regulate your mood, hormones, immune system, and also improves cognitive function and memory. Still tired? Take a 10-20 minute mid-day nap to freshen-up!

 

Week 3: Reconnect Spiritually

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Photo by Quino Al on Unsplash
  • Reconnect inwardly (meditation, yoga, tranquil music, quiet time…)
  • Reconnect spiritually (daily devotions, prayer, music, thought-provoking,faith-based movies)

This is probably the most important week. Try one of the many different types of meditation. Also, set aside some quiet time for thoughts and focus.

You may also read daily devotions. I have a book called “Jesus Calling,” which I feel that I can apply to my every day life. And even more straight-forward- you can and should set aside some time for prayer. Even enjoy Christian music or movie!

These should all guide you into a stronger spirituality, which will then make you a stronger Mom. I mean, who is able to always handle stress on their own? It’s nice to turn to faith when we are feeling extra blessed, and sometimes when we are desperate!

 

Want to start your 21 Day Challenge for rejuvenation?

HERE are 3 printouts, that go week-by-week.

 

Week 1: Positive Mind

Week 2: Energize Body

Week 3: Reconnect Spiritually

 

 

If you feel that you’d get the most from combining all 3 weeks tasks throughout the whole 21 days (instead of split up week by week), then feel free to choose items off of each list that would be challenging and helpful.

Example of how to combine all for 21 days: 

  • List positives & Do something for yourself
  • Drink more water & Rest for 10-20 minutes mid-day
  • Read Daily Devotions & Listen to Christian music

Set aside 10-20 minutes of alone time in the morning, mid-day, and evening.

Morning: read daily devotional, while getting a head start on drinking water

Mid-day: rest 10-20 minutes, list positives in life

Evening: Take a bubble bath while listening to Christian music

 

You don’t have to be a tired Mom any more. Sometimes you skimp on what you need because of what your family needs. But a Mom who has been taken care of, can also take care of her family.

 

 

 

 

 

*I am not a doctor. Please always consult with your physician first to address mental or physical health needs!

Nativity Craft

Nativity Craft

Earlier this week I listed 20 ways the whole family can Keep Christ in Christmas. One activity for younger kids was to “craft your own nativity scene.” So here is one super cute and easy way to make your own.

Do you have toilet paper rolls or paper towel rolls? Great! Let’s get started!

You will need about 45 minutes to prep and create!

I know, I know, if you have multiple kids that’s nuts! But, think about it this way, if you can sit down with your kiddos and keep them busy, that is like gold! Or get some one-on-one time with one of your kids that likes to draw or color, because this project is perfect for them!

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You will also need:

  • At least 6 toilet paper tubes (Mary, baby Jesus, Joseph, and 3 Wise Men, extras for animals, shepherds, an angel…)
  • Box for your barn
  • White paper and construction paper
  • Pencil
  • Scissors
  • Glue
  • Crayons or markers

Step 1: Cut the Paper for your paper rolls

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Lay your paper roll on the paper and lightly mark with extra length for overlapping ends. (Marking woodworkers style). Use a straight edge like another pencil to connect the markings. Cut. And done! That was easy!

Step 2: Sketch people for your kiddo to color

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I stopped what I was doing at one point to watch him color. Oh my gosh! He was so cute! He was making silly faces as he focused. (And yes, that is a Halloween pumpkin shirt!)

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I couldn’t help myself from a little coloring. But basically this is the idea of the drawing.

You could also use the construction paper to make little clothes. Even scrap fabric, stickers, felt, ribbon, glitter glue…. Go nuts!

Step 3: Glue

You’ll then want to take those pretty colorful drawings and glue them onto your paper roll.

Here I am using the regular glue. Although this is messy, I can’t handle how stick glue doesn’t bond well.

Step 4: Turn your box into a barn

While letting your people dry, just glue some construction paper onto your box. Then add your star. Our star is flat on top to keep from getting torn with play.

You could even add popsicle sticks inside to make separate animal stalls. You can even think about adding natural elements from outside to make it feel more real. Twigs, straw, small rocks…

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Step 5: Let Dry & Then Play!

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One of the best parts is you can store the whole thing just like this:

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This is also great for teaching bible school!!

And parents, here is your kid’s newest toy!

Great for playing at the table with while you’re cooking lunch/dinner. Goes well with teaching the nativity story!