Dear Mommas

Dear Mommas

Dear Momma,

You love your family so dearly. No one else could ever love them like you. From the moment you knew you were expecting your entire life changed. You were cautious, you were always at the doctor, you had to eat a certain way, you swapped out your favorite wardrobe, and you could feel everything emotionally and physically that bonded you to your baby.

Now your baby is a full of curiosity, abilities, and a big personality. You look forward to seeing their bright little smiles first thing in the morning. You love having a chat that the both of you can understand. You love when they bring something to show you. Or the times when they climb into your lap and snuggle, even for a minute.

But lets face it, as your kiddo(s) gets older, and gain independence, things start to get tricky. They try to rewrite the rules. They think your standards are up for negotiation. They forget their manners. And when they get hungry or tired, their emotion comes out like hot lava.

So for the less memorable parts of your every day, when you feel that you are coming unglued, know that you are doing just fine.

The days when you literally slept 5 hours overnight and you cried like your 2-year-old. The days when you had to yell to get your kid’s attention because you needed to be heard. The days when you are so tired of feeling like you are putting in your all and watching it get shredded apart. The days when you feel lost as a person because you gave everything up for your family. You gave so much, you feel mentally worn out.

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You ask yourself what you did wrong. What happened?

The answer? Nothing. You changed. You grew as a parent. And you still wildly love your kiddos. Just because you have needs, doesn’t make you any less of a parent.

Get more sleep. (You need 7-9 hours of sleep according to helpguide.com). Don’t forget to eat. Healthy food. Often. You need your family to respect you. To hear you. You need them to chip in around the house. And you need to do things for yourself.

Do something for yourself, even if it seems silly. You deserve it!

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Crank up your favorite Pandora station, pick up an old hobby, go see your best girl friend, go shopping with your mom and sister, have that glass of wine at the end of the night. And do not feel guilty about doing those, even if the house is the same disaster that it’s been all day.

Raising kids is hard. And not hard in the fact that we don’t think we can’t do it. Hard, in the fact that we feel that we can’t be the parent we want to be.

Stop comparing yourself to who you want to be. Look at what you have overcome. Look at your special relationship with your family. And just know that you are doing just fine. Really.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Links:

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/sleep/sleep-needs-get-the-sleep-you-need.htm

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8 Ways to Lose Baby Weight Realistically!

8 Ways to Lose Baby Weight Realistically!

Do you still have some baby weight? Many moms struggle to lose their pregnancy weight. Doctors are telling us to gain 25-30 lbs (or more) while carrying. And it is not hard to do. Especially when you can stock your freezer full of ice cream and make daily stops to the carry out.

Then you birth a little miracle and you are left with this pouch, leaving strangers wondering if you are preggo again. Uh! Now you have to lose it!

And by the way, if you are still at kid one, the worst is when you are expecting shortly after getting your body back. NO….

So after having 3 little boys, and the weight loss getting harder, I came up with a good weight loss plan that lots of mommies can use. I lost 14 stubborn lbs doing this!

(You don’t have to be postpartum to try this.)

I am no doctor or weight loss expert and I realize this won’t work for everyone. Please if you have medical conditions, consult with your doctor first. Also, if you are nursing, you may want to adjust this plan accordingly.

  1. EAT LEAN PROTEINS

    like eggs, chicken, turkey, nuts. Chicken or ground turkey can be made in to most meals. Hard boiled eggs or nuts make good energy snacks. Resist the urge to eat hot dogs with the kiddos.

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  2. DRINK MORE WATER! 

    Juice and sports drinks have lots of sugar, natural or not. Just keep drinking that clear goodness. Try to space these out. Maybe have an 8 oz. glass of water first thing in the morning, then again before each meal, and maybe a couple hours before bed. You don’t want to drink too much at once.

    No Alcohol either. Alcohol can be one of the biggest factors of gaining weight. Most alcohol is full of sugar, carbs, and calories. Seriously look up before and afters of people who became sober!

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  3. KICK SUGAR TO THE CURB. 

    A little won’t hurt, but sugar can be very addictive. If you get a sugar craving, have an apple. Eventually I found that after so long of taking added sugar out of my diet, I no longer craved it. Things with added sugar actually started to taste too sweet.

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  4. NO PRESERVATIVES

    like chips, cookies, white bread…. Replace with rice, oatmeal, or other whole grains. The idea is to replace a quick filler for something that has more long term effects on your body. Whole grains will give you that boost of energy that your body is really looking for.

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  5. GET OUTSIDE WITH THE KIDS. 

    Don’t worry about an exercise routine unless you want to. Your physical activity can include teaching your kids a sport or exploring. Heck, take them to the park or on a 20 minute walk! It counts!

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  6. NO FOOD AFTER DINNER.

    “What??” you’re saying. “But I’m a mom and I barely get to eat dinner when it’s happening!” This forces you to eat when your family does. Furthermore, those extra night time calories won’t be slowing down your metabolism when you sleep. If need be, grab a handful of almonds or a small amount of lean protein to satisfy your hunger.

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  7. GET MOTIVATED!

    What helps you stay motivated during a diet? A pretty dress you want to fit into? A cute little swimsuit? Maybe a vacation? You need something to look forward to on the hard days.

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  8. Love Yourself!

    No matter what, this is a process about trying to love your body. But you know what? You already should! You grew a tiny human in your body and that is a lot of work!

    (Even if you haven’t recently just had a child, know your worth and start thinking positive!)

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Lastly, don’t lose too much weight! If you start feeling tired or moody, then just stop. The scale measures your weight, but you can’t exactly measure feeling good. The point of losing weight should be to give you more energy, reduce stress, and make you happy.

Basically, think of food as fuel for your body.

Again, I am not a weight loss expert or doctor, but these things helped me to lose my baby weight after kid #3. Yes, I’ve gained a couple lbs back, but I feel good and that’s what matters to me most!

The Before and After shots show all the weight in my face.

 

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(Edited end Section of #2 on 12/06/2017)

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