10 Self-Care Ideas (for Tired Moms)

10 Self-Care Ideas (for Tired Moms)

Self-care sounds lovely, doesn’t it? Since your new mom days, you were always told to sleep when the baby sleeps. That kind of seems impossible, right? How the heck am I supposed to get the house up to par if I’m always napping?

If the majority of the housecare and childcare is your responsibility, then you start to realize you have a choice. Well, 2 choices…

If you do a lot by yourself with high standards you’re probably setting yourself up to feel like a failure. You keep putting everything above your needs as if you don’t deserve it.

Believe me, momma, you deserve a break! I know you do! So here are some simple self-care ideas that you can and should practice.

Put down that laundry and figure out which of these ideas are what you need most!

Here’s the list!

Sleep πŸ˜ͺ

Most importantly, make sure you’re getting enough sleep. Sleep deprivation can really play with your emotions, ability to function, and feel good. If you have to go to bed at 9 p.m. to get it, even if it’s once in a while, do it. As a momma myself, I rarely ever get a full night’s sleep uninterrupted. However, if I go to bed early even sometimes I feel amazing the next day!

Favorite Morning Drink β˜•

As soon as the kids wake up, they’re hungry and they stall getting ready for school. Mornings can be chaotic. There’s nothing in the morning I love more than a hot coffee with cream. I love sitting with a warm mug in peace and quiet, preferably before it gets cold.

Journaling πŸ–Š

If you’re exhausted and overwhelmed it might be a good idea to jot down your feelings. It helps you get the headspace you need. You can either write down some cute memories to your baby, write in prayer form, or for your eyes only.

Daily Devotional

Maybe you’re not as physically exhausted as rusty spiritually. Your feelings of being tired could just stem from not seeing the bigger picture. You can revamp your faith with devotionals online or get a copy for your coffee table. You’ll feel 100x more mentally strong with a deep-rooted faith.

Go for a walk πŸƒ

One of my favorite ways to take care of myself is to go for a 20-minute walk. Exercise releases endorphins, gets your heart pumping, and gets you some good air in your lungs. Being outside is just great for when you feel a little down on yourself. Something about nature is so relaxing! If you don’t have a sitter, just push the kids in the stroller.

Jam session πŸ’ƒ

Music is known to alter moods. Sometimes you just need to crank up Hall of Fame for motivation. Sometimes you need some Lauren Daigle for an uplifting vibe. I also love singing my heart out to Pentatonix while I’m driving or doing dishes. What’s your jam?

Secret stash 🍷🍫

Although eating crappy often will make you feel crappy, it’s safe to have your own chocolate stash. Or wine. Or chips. Something that you don’t have to share with anyone. Because as moms, we literally just don’t want to always share.

Go for a drive πŸš—

Those quick little trips to the store might be a good excuse to leave the house solo. If you just have to pick up milk, take it for a little freedom to and headspace.

New clothes πŸ‘•πŸ‘—

You deserve a wardrobe that isn’t totally stretched out, too small, from last decade, maternity-wear, or uncomfortable. Next time you’re picking up something from the store, toss in some new panties or a t-shirt that fits nice. Even a pair of sandals that aren’t falling apart. Doesn’t it seem like even the nice sandals wear out too quickly?

Have a Tribe

When you’re going through something challenging it’s nice to have a group of people who get you. Other moms to vent to when you’re exhausted or down on yourself. It’s best to have this tribe within driving distances to visit and support each other from nearby. But online support is there too. Here’s the link to my Mom Tribe.

That’s 10!

Which things will you start doing for yourself? The great thing about self-care is it can come in all forms. For us mommas, self-care looks a little different. We deserve to feel good physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and in all ways!

As moms, we’ve got to start making ourselves a little more important. We’ve got a long road ahead of doing big things for others. We truly deserve so much more than we allow ourselves. And you don’t deserve anyone’s permission to do so!

Mom Life (And The Thing No One Talks About)

Mom Life (And The Thing No One Talks About)

To all the moms feeling inadequate,

You feel like you’ll never win. You can never make everyone happy, keep the house clean, or you forget to do something from time to time. You’re only one person. And you’re very overwhelmed. Sometimes to the point of tears.

You’ll debate with yourself. “Why can’t I be as good as other moms?” Or “My family’s and my house’s needs are more important than me.” “I don’t deserve ____ if I can’t get anything done first.” (Even after doing said thing all day).

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Dear Middle Child

Dear Middle Child

As my middle son nears age 5, I feel like I missed him being a baby. Part of that may be him being the middle kid. Or maybe because he’s close in age to his brothers. Whatever the case, he suddenly seems so grown up!

This is what I want him to know.

Dear middle child,

It seems as though you were a baby yesterday. I can still vividly remember birthing you in a tub at the hospital. When the midwife pulled you from the water, she placed you on my chest. I was instantly overwhelmed when I met you. My heart was beating so fast because we both worked so hard and there you were. You cried and cried until you were cleaned up, swaddled, and placed back in my arms.

When the room cleared I faced you towards me so I could gaze on your precious face. You were happy and silent now. I felt so at peace in that little room. You snuggled daddy soon after. We were lucky to leave the hospital with you, unlike your brothers. It felt strange, walking off a day after we had you (instead of the 8 days in the NICU for your brothers).

When you came home, you made our tiny family more whole! Your big brother instantly wanted to hold you and feed you. As you grew more, he would play with you and your baby toys. He showed you the way of the world. And you two laughed a lot! I loved seeing you two become best friends.Β 

I’ll still never forget the time your big brother dumped an entire can of baby powder all over you. When I walked in on the scene of the crime, you two stared blankly at me as if nothing happened. I laughed so hard!Β 

Soon, you were 18 months old, and you were no longer a baby, nor the baby of the family. I feel like from then on was focused on your younger brother. I feel bad that we didn’t get more time with you as the baby.

But I can tell you one thing, I do appreciate you being independent. I love watching you tinker with gears and building sets. I love watching you color a picture of us. The way your tongue rests on your lips when you focus on the lines. I love your sweet little voice and your kind spirit. I love your perspective of life. And I absolutely love when you curl up next to me on the couch (and demand a prompt back rub).Β 

I will never get those first few years back. All I know is that you grew up too fast, so I’m going to slow down and enjoy you more now.Β 

I love you buddy!Β 

How We Hudson

How We Hudson

Have you ever wondered how large families function? How do they get places on time? How do they feed all those kids? How do they afford it all?

A new YouTube channel, “How We Hudson” has begun a questions series. The family of 9 seems to manage everything so well that people have been asking them how they do it. They took to YouTube and post these endearing videos frequently.

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10 Resources for your New Year Resolutions

10 Resources for your New Year Resolutions

Someone asked me the other day if I was excited for 2019. Yet, another honest answer from me… I’m not ready for it. The holidays this year just feel super sped up. Right now, I have no current plans tonight except to stay up with my 6 year old while everyone else sleeps. My husband has work tomorrow and I don’t even want to deal with the little ones late at night.

Then there’s the whole New Years Resolutions thing.

All I want is to live a life of feeling good physically, spiritually in-touch, able to time-manage my whole family better, more patient with my kids, more time with my husband, and I want more financial freedom. But I’m not going to start all of these tomorrow. Of course I want a well-rounded life. But like any real-life scenario, once the car needs new breaks, the washing machine breaks.

So I’m going to chip away at these guides all year long during the times in which I feel like I need them most. These have all been resources I’ve used all throughout my adult life (and they litter my Instagram feed too!).

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Christmas Countdown

Christmas Countdown

11 days until Christmas! Are you ready?

Here in northwest Ohio, we’ve been ready since Halloween because of our early snow. In fact, our youngest has been sure to thank God every dinner time prayer for our Christmas tree. Since October. We didn’t have a tree up until two weeks ago.

As Christmas approaches this year, I’ve tried to take the pressure off and focus on more important things. I could be trying harder to whip out some quick posts for you, sell you all my favorite things, and focus on all the commercialism. But I’m not going to. I realize that makes me sound a little bit like Charlie Brown. 

Instead I’ve been focused on how blessed I am, focusing on my family, my goals for the next year, and focusing on my purpose.

A lot has changed for our family over the years. The biggest changes are of the heart for us. No one says life is going to be easy, safe, or that it will be constant. But I think God uses those moments of uncertainty to depend on Him. When we grow humble, we can see our blessings clearly.

Our family has been through a lot of stressful situations from NICU visits, ER visits, break-ins, military life, and at times financial strains. But those moments have shed some light on my blessings. I now see my healthy family, that we’re safe, we have amazing support, everything we need, and a God who loves us. 

Our pastor has been preaching on the Nativity story leading up to Christmas. I’ve heard so many renditions of the same story. The basic story, the cultural break down, and even this hilarious viral video done done by Soutland Church! 

In preparation for Christmas, we’ve been crafting, listening to a lot of Pentatonix, decorating, and making some goodies! 

What have you guys been doing to prepare for Christmas? 

To the Stay-At-Home Mom

Hey there stay-at-home mom,

I think I know you just a little better than you realize.

I know that those little eyes looking up into your soul is your fuel. I know that you delight in every new milestone that your little one accomplishes! I know that you are filling your memory bank with pictures of sunshine in your sweetie’s hair and the mental recordings of her laughter. “I’m going to remember this for the rest of my life,” you tell yourself.


I know your maternity leave may have never quite ended or that you quit working for various reasons to be home.Β I know you pour your heart and soul into this job.

Even as your babies grew up, you still couldn’t sleep well through the night. You still have urges to make sure they’re all still breathing and well. You get such little sleep some nights, even though you’re wrecked. You spend all day making mental notes and trying to stay on everyone else’s schedules. You focus on child development, health, nutrition, cleaning, and bills, and some days forget to fill your memory bank. Or do something nice for yourself even.

Regular days you play referee to break up your kid’s fighting. If you’re not breaking up fights, you’re repeating yourself to your kids. “They totally heard me,” you say. And all that can turn into a lot of yelling.

Just a little while before your husband comes home you realize all of your hard work appears to have evaporated into thin air. The nutritional breakfast/lunch is on the dinning room floor, the dishes are stacked high again, the laundry train lost it’s caboose, for every one mess you picked up there’s another 10, the fight you broke up is now back in full swing, and now you’re husband is going to see. So we panic that our husband will think we we’re lazy all day and we stress clean.

You hide the dishes in the dishwasher and clothes in the washer. At some point you just don’t care about the mess any more because you’re tired and defeated. You’ve spent all day feeling isolated, tired, and irritated.

This life is all you now know. And no one told you it’d be so tough!

No one told you that you would feel this pressure to be a good mom, even when no one else is even around. No one told you that you would feel lonely in your own home, surrounded by your minis. No one told you that it’s almost scary to wake up one day and realize you don’t have anywhere to be. No one else that needs you more than your children.

No one told you that you boarded the struggle bus with your own worst critic. You.

I never realized how all of those tough days would sneak up on me and make me feel so small. I never realized the weight of it all until I opened up about it. And I never realized how similar my feelings were to other moms until other people started opening up about it.

Motherhood is the most beautiful thing to happen in your life, but the most demanding.Β I know it may not seem the way you pictured it. I know it’s full of days when you wish you could work or that you hope the kids would become more independent sooner.

In 7 years time, this is what I learned about motherhood (especially being a Stay-at-home mom):

  • I felt most successful when I gave my kids the most attention
  • I always criticized myself, even when I didn’t use social media
  • I read so many expert tips and I felt like I tried everything, when I should’ve just used my motherly instinct
  • The whole mom-thing is literally just winging it
  • Surround yourself with positive vibes
  • People will tell you it goes fast, but you won’t believe it until your kids are bigger
  • You should be your husband’s best friend, but you will still need a mom friend (or 2) to vent with. A lot!
  • If you have to choose between a clean house or sanity, always choose sanity (mental breaks and extra rest)
  • Take care of your basic needs as well as you do the rest of your family
  • You don’t always have to listen to your kids’ music or watch their shows. Make them do what you like sometimes
  • If you can find a part time job outside of home, even like 3-4 hours a week, take it!
  • Plan girls days 2-3 weeks ahead because you will literally never get to keep plans if not.
  • Also dates. Go on dates more than once a year. And plan those out 2-3 weeks early too!
  • Hire a babysitter, even if it’s to get your hair done.
  • Treat yourself more! I almost never did things for myself. I started to feel more motivated when I had things to look forward to.
  • Call up your mom to talk. It’s such good therapy!!
  • Take help when it’s offered.
  • Find ways to record good memories, whether a journal to your kids for when they grow up, candid pictures, or videos of them being happy. Then just brain dump the days of yelling.
  • Look back on these recordings when you’re blood pressure is through the roof. You’ll just be looking through pictures thinking of how sweet your babies are.
  • Being a good mom holds a lot of pressure. You don’t always have to hold it together. Grow your faith!
  • And lastly, don’t let someone’s idea of you define you. You are so much more!

We do so much around our homes, but it never feels like enough. We always question how we’ve done as a mom. Somehow with how busy we are, it can feel like our lives are somehow incomplete. There is always still more to do.Β 

To those of you wondering if you’re a good mom, or when you will ever even fit into your own schedule-

I once read a simple quote, “you are enough.” It changed my whole thinking and gave me a sense of peace.

Enough with the mom guilt. Enough with believing what people think of us. Enough with not giving ourselves something to look forward to.

You are enough. Start believing it!

Photo by (Unsplash user):Β Omar Lopez