The ultimate Parenthood goals are making sweet memories while raising orderly human beings.
Sometimes…. Ok, most days, things don’t go according to a parent’s plans. Being on time, the whole family fashioning a good look, owning a home that only needs cleaned once a week, and kids that never whine. These are what parents’ dreams are made of!
Social media perceptions can sometimes cause moms to be extra insecure. No one really talks about the struggles.
However, if you use Twitter, you’ll read several relatable, sarcastic, and entertaining tweets about parenting. Instead of questioning what you’re doing wrong in your home, you’ll feel right at home.
There are really too many good tweets to pick from. Out of hundreds, these 10 are among my favorites!
1. Perfect-ish Family
All the parents standing around at BBQ’s and parties.
Nothing brings me more joy than the family I constantly complain about.
1. Wash 2. Forget to move to dryer 3. Rewash the now smelly clothes 4. Move to dryer 5. Repeat steps 1-4 6. Dry both loads together 7. Rerun dryer for wrinkles 8. Move to basket 9. Fail to fold 10. Move back to dryer
I think it’s safe to say that no one is the perfect parent. And any given day even the most motivated mom or dad can try to plan for the perfect day. But we’d be fools to expect a mess-free, whine-free, energetic, fun-filled non-stop 18+ years.
At least we have Twitter to share our experiences with. But these hilarious parents’ daily struggles just crack me up!
If you don’t stay at home with your kids, you probably have your own assumptions about the gig. Some look down on stay-at-home moms while some admire SAHMs. Let’s clear a few things up!
According to Forbes, staying home is popular among millenials for a variety of reasons. The gist of it is that mothers are looking to swap working away from home with work at home opportunities or “pinching pennies.”
In the article, “How Much Does Child Care Cost?”, Care.com states that 32% of families spend over 20% of their annual household income on child care. According to this source, the cost of child care deeply impacts families ranging from parents changing careers to parents not being able to afford it.
I’ve been a Stay-at-Home-Mom now for over 6 years. In that time, I’ve worked very hard at preparing our kids for preschool and maintaining the household. All while needing to defend myself. As if moms already need to be judged any more for the way we raise our families! Popular beliefs or myths are pretty much the only thing separating what others think goes on, and what it’s really like!
10 Myths About Stay-at-Home Moms
10. It’s easy
It’s true that SAHMs don’t have to rush to the babysitter to drop their little ones off for work, spend a majority of the day away from their families, and rush home to get dinner started. However, the challenges of keeping a bunch of kiddos entertained all day, cleaning the house while it gets wrecked, and still getting dinner on the table is no easy feat!
9. SAHMs don’t have degrees or a higher education
Even degree-holding moms have to make an important decision. Follow career or press the pause button. Higher education doesn’t always equal higher pay in the career field. Sometimes the logistics of staying home are for personal reasons, and sometimes it’s a matter of cost-effectiveness.
8. No dreams and aspirations
Very much like #9, moms who stay home have long term plans. We know our families won’t always need us in the same way. We look forward to our futures and checkmarking items off of career goals or bucket lists.
7. SAHMs are wealthy
The occupation is manageable with an average family. As long as the one income can meet the needs of the family, staying home is sustainable. In the long run, there are sacrifices of luxury in order to focus solely on the needs of the household. SAHMs budget, budget, budget!
6. SAHMs are lazy
Assumptions are made that SAHMs aren’t busy and that they sit around all day. But truth be told, trying to keep a bunch of kids out of trouble, fed, bathed, entertained, and off to bed is hard, busy work. Isn’t is true for any mom that once you sit down your kids need something?
5. Mom does all the parenting
Some people believe mom does (or should do all the housework) and child care because she’s not making an income (even when dad’s home). In all fairness, moms are built to nurture their families. But moms are built to be a team with dad including sharing chores, handling bills, and both parents being equally involved are all important.
4. Always home
One of the main things SAHMs do is drive their families around. Doctor appointments, errands, to and from school, someone to show up at school events, to and from extra cirriculars like sports, play dates, visiting grandma, the library, birthday parties, etc… similar to the working mom.
3. Don’t contribute financially
The VeryWellFamily.com says stay-at-home moms would be paid 143,000 per year if paid for all of their services. If the budget is still tight after all those savings, Moms have more opportunities to work out of home. Some legit jobs include writing, photography, coding, transcribing, sales, and more. Currently one trend is to sell essential oils or teeth whiteners, all while staying home with the kids.
2. Not stressful
We may be flexible when it comes to time management. However, one of our biggest stressors is budgeting everything well and coming up with alternatives (for projects, activities, and meals). Sometimes a project or trip will have to wait if it can’t fit in the budget. Staying at home can also be tough on a mom’s social and emotional needs.
1. Always love our job
If you can happily do anything while sleep deprived, then go you! But for most parents, we’re tired, our job never ends, and we’re also really good at judging ourselves. Sometimes that gets in the way of enjoying the job.
Who works harder?
Not all jobs are equal. And not all families are equal.
In the end, we’re all the same. Working moms and Stay-at-Home-Moms face similar challenges. We’re facing issues with our kids listening to us, cleaning up after themselves, and having them finish homework. We’re tired, we’ve repeated ourselves one too many times, and we we all just wish life was a little easier.
Working mom or Stay-at-Home Mom, we love our families more than anything. We’re all really just doing what we deem best. Over all, our families depend on us, whichever path we choose.
As a stay-at-home mom of 6 years, I made it my job to find ways to guide our family in the frugal lifestyle. Because you know, if you’re not making an income (alongside your spouse), the best you can do is save it and stretch it.
In 6 years time we haven’t gone on any fancy family vacations, we hardly dine out, and we even get picky with our monthly bills and groceries. I don’t get my hair or nails done. Not even a hired babysitter.
It was a challenge living on one income, but we made it work. We had everything we needed.
So, what happened when my husband took a job that paid less? Well, I promised I’d do whatever it took to make the difference up, if not more. So, I applied to a weekend job near home. Because of my husband (Steven)’s job and military obligations, I’m not able to work much (when it comes to making sure one of us is home with the kids).
When I took this part-time job, I realized that it was actually freeing as a (mostly) stay-at-home mom. I began to have a purpose outside of home and more importantly, I started getting more adult socialization. And on top of that, it’s comforting to have a little extra income.
Then, this weekend happened. I was scheduled to work when my husband was on orders. And the grandparents were all busy with their weekend plans, living their own lives as they should. And I had never hired a babysitter before. I panicked.
How do you even find a babysitter?
I can’t even afford the babysitters on care.com and I wasn’t about to ask just anyone. So my in-laws suggested a friend to help me search. She asked around at Youth Group at our church and soon enough, someone was interested.
Leading up to work, I had been slightly nervous, wondering:
How will our new babysitter and my boys feel about each other?
Will it be weird to leave them with someone I don’t know much about?
Will the boys behave?
Will they be busy and have fun?
Will I get an emergency call at work?
And will she enjoy it enough to come back?
Then, this nice girl shows up at our house and I introduced myself and the kids to her. I show her around, show her the list of phone numbers, rules, and things to keep busy.
And I was certain there would be one kid clinging to me as I ran out of the door. Our youngest had just woken up and wanted me to hold him. Weirdly enough, without a cue, he ran over to her, hands upward, to be picked up. Such a good feeling!
I called Steven on my quick little drive to tell him that I officially left the house! It was exciting! It was freeing!
When I came home I discovered that the kids were busy THE ENTIRE TIME! They had so much fun with the new babysitter that they were begging me to have her over again! They also went to bed easy that night and slept in later than usual the next morning.
My husband and I got thinking we should’ve had a babysitter all along, because now we can:
Go on dates when grandparents can’t babysit
Have someone watch the kids so I can run errands (if Steven’s on orders)
Make appointments at the bank, car dealerships, and other financial institutions
Go Christmas shopping alone
Both potentially work the same day
The biggest realization of hiring a babysitter is WOW! WHAT A DIFFERENCE! For our whole family! I’ve been living under a rock for 6 years!
Babysitters are a blessing to families because while they care for our kids, they have energy to play with our kids that we sometimes don’t, and they make great role-models.
Regardless of your situation, it’s definitely worth finding someone to hire at least every once in a while! Just think of what you could do with the extra help! Back in my babysitting days, I was hired for regular date nights, a day for mom to tend the garden, and once a week so the parents could take dance lessons.
On our Facebook page, Mommas Group, one topic Moms struggle with is babysitters. After some research, care.com is useful, but not all moms feel comfortable using the site. Not to mention, the cost calculator. Moms in our region don’t typically pay $15 or $20 an hour for care.
To join this conversation, please comment below how you found your babysitter, your region, and what you pay. If you don’t have a babysitter yet, what are your questions and concerns?
Mother’s Day is a big deal for us moms! Afterall, many agree that becoming a mom brought purpose to our lives.
While Moms appreciate gestures or gifts, what most of us want is even more meaningful. A day to feel special. A day to really feel like our families appreciate us.
Maybe a day to sleep in, not lift a finger, and good behavior. No cooking or cleaning. No changing diapers. No going anywhere. Just sitting out in the sun with a drink in hand. Being surrounded by our families. Sounds nice to me anyways! 😀
Every year since our oldest has been in school, the teachers have helped the kids make Mother’s Day gifts. These are by far my favorite! In preschool, he painted wooden cutout flowers. This year, the kids worked on something even more simple that really touched my heart!
They made giant construction paper cards with one side devoted to painted hand-print flowers. The other side is “All about Mom.”
The close-up reads:
“Let me tell you about my mom.
My mom is 32 years old.
She likes to sit on the couch.
The best thing she cooks is eggs.
Her favorite food is Chinese food.
Her favorite thing to do to relax is to sleep.
We like to spin together.
She is really good at cleaning the house.
As you can see, my mom is special because she plays with me.
His answers are pretty close anyways. Definitely had me smiling because it’s so cute!
As a Mom, this is special for so many reasons. I love his little hand-prints. And I love that he took time to think about why I am so special to him. This masterpiece made my week!
Like many moms, I struggle to feel like I’m doing a good enough job.
No matter how much moms do for their families, often, we feel like we aren’t good enough. It’s so hard to keep up with it all. It’s no wonder!
We balance school, work, chores, extra circulars, church, marriage, family time, health, emotion, routines, fun, and hey, even the checkbook. We have all the in between jobs from driving the kids to the doctor, and making sure everyone has clean underwear. We multitask so much that we can’t even remember what we accomplished all day. Meeting our family’s basic needs consist of so many extra steps that are forgotten about like putting a meal on the table. I mean, I can’t be the only mom who plans out a grocery list all week, and plan dinner starting in the morning hours.
Thinking back to my childhood, all I remember was playing and having fun. I remember my mom showing up to every baseball game. Every school event. Every appointment. She made time to play toothfairy. She read us so many books. And with that excited narration too! She admired our works of art. Made our beds. Cleaned the house in any bit of free time she had. She balanced everything, with what appeared to look like a breeze. And somewhow she was amazingly patient with us. All. The. Time.
And when I became a Mom, I thought, “well if she raised 4 of us, I’ll certainly do fine with less kids.” With three little boys, I look at my mom now, with a much deeper appreciation. Now I experience the restless nights, worrying about a fever when the kids are sick. I worry about balancing second chances with discipline. I worry when I’ve forgotten show-and-tell or a special dress-up day at school. And I worry if I’m giving all of the kids equal attention and meeting all of their emotional needs. And how on Earth do you squeeze in that extra time with your spouse to let them know you still care?
Moms have such a hard job! We face so many challenges, even our own thoughts and feelings. So stop putting yourself down. You might not be the perfect mom you always thought you’d be. But look at what you do in one day. Look at what you’ve accomplished.
You are the kisser of boo-boos, the tickle monster, the dance partner, the snack attendant, the potty train praiser, infant interpreter, the pusher of swings, dignified driver, the walking “why” responder, the artist appreciator, the mountain of laundry climber, and so much more!
If only you could see yourself in the eyes and hearts of your family!
Gift your mom something really nice for Mother’s Day to show her how much you care! Then let her know how special she is and how much you appreciate her often!
Here’s a quick video on the topic of how mom’s view themselves VS how kids view their moms. It made me cry, so be sure to have a box of tissues nearby!
Happy May 1st! It’s almost time for summer! Who’s ready?
Have you started planning your big summer vacation? Or will you be spending your warm-weathered days at home?
Over the years two of our favorite things to do to prepare for summer are; plot out our vegetable garden and make a summer bucket list. The bucket list has gone from a variety of museums, zoos, and entertainment to a more simplistic version. We realize that out of the 12 weeks or so, more realistically we probably have 1 or 2 days each month to go out of town (for an all day event).
Plus not to mention, it’s hard to take smaller kids to more formal locations. Especially if you’re dealing with potty training and nap time or anything like that. So I split up my ideas into categories from ideal to more realistic.
So for our kids ages (almost 3) to 6, this is what we came up with so far:
T-ball (registered our oldest)
Swim lessons (for the older two)
Visit the local ice-cream shop
Visit the local farmers market
Visit the beach (at our Lake)
Have a cookout with family
Go to the Fair
Visit the Deer Park
Here are more ideas that your family can consider adding to your own list:
Major/Minor League Baseball game
Old Car museum
Take a scenic train ride
Visit a historical village
Watch glass blowing
Children’s museum (art/literature…)
Sky Zone/ Indoor Playground
Get an arcade pass
Take cooking classes
See a movie
See a play/Disney on Ice
See an air show
Art Festival/ Craft Show
Air Balloon Festival
Rent a boat/book a boat tour
Create your own Fun:
Rent a cabin
Ride on a bike Trail
Hike in the woods
Explore natural formations near you
Explore waterfalls near you
See a butterfly house
Have a picnic at the park
Visit your local nature center
See a botanical garden/arboretum
Free kid’s classes at your local county parks
Story hour at your library
Kid’s art classes at your craft store
Go for a scenic drive/road trip
Make/Try international food
Check out all of the top rated parks near you
Visit a splash pad
Fun in your own backyard:
Bury treasure in your sandbox
Make a fairy garden
Grow some pretty flowers
Build a fort
Make your own natural playground
Make mud pies
Have a squirt gun fight
Get a pool (we like the 10′ Intex Easy Set Above Ground Pool)
Get a Slip ‘n Slide or sprinkler
Build a bird house/bird feeder
Make natural wind chimes
Have a tea party
Have a lemonade stand
Make your own popsicles
Make your own ice cream
Play a sport together (baseball/soccer/volleyball)
Have a race/make an obstacle course
See who can blow the biggest bubbles
Draw your family portrait with sidewalk chalk
Decorate a name (room) plaque with acrylic paint
Make window clings/stained glass pictures
Have a bonfire & make smores
Have movie night outside with a projector
I really wanted to create sub-lists for those of you who are able to and willing to enjoy a booked day, casual day, and a day where you don’t even have to leave home or get into the summer vacation budget.
Be sure to ask around on Facebook for friends’ recommendations. You can even stop in at your AAA or visitors bureau for more trip ideas.
Now that I probably encouraged you to make your list too big, which ones stick out to you the most? Which of your family favorites would you add to the list?
Who’s ready for 2018? What is your New Year’s resolution? Quit a bad habit, eat healthier, or maybe be more positive? Maybe you simply want more for your family.
We desire to be perfect parents. And at first, we expect it to be a fun little hike in the woods. But as time goes on, parenting turns into this CRAZY obstacle course. Life happens, things are out of our control, and we adjust.
So how do we turn these parts of life into something better for our loved ones? I’ve been chipping away at a great parenting resource. “Raising a Loving Family” (by Virginia Scott, George Doub, and Peggy Runnels). This book explains how influential parents can be when modeling their values.
For our New Year’s resolution, I’ve collected 10 quotes for inspiration! Let’s be good role models for our families by being more;
Help your children see the good in themselves and others around. Try not to focus on bad people, but rather, bad behavior. Do you think your child will change bad behavior if you let them know they are good, but need to make better choices?
Sometimes we need to let our kids feel free to be themselves. No judgments. No lectures. Just accept them for who they are.
It’s easy for kids to be upset when their parent says “no.” But overall, being firm teaches kids that needs are more important than wants. And sometimes it teaches them to think of others first.
This little fact stuck with me from a family retreat that we went on this year. The famous philosopher John Dewey spent at least an hour of face-to-face time with his kids each day. No matter how busy, he would leave his study to give them quality time. He believed in higher education and he knew it started with the home life.
It’s natural for kids and adults to feel emotion and make mistakes. No one’s perfect. Use these opportunities to help your kids learn. When your kids are emotional, ask them to use words to explain what’s wrong. It puts the logic into the situation.
See your blessings and thank God every day for them. Then, parent with religion first. If they ask a tough question, it’s acceptable to tell them that’s how God made it. Show your kids how to have a prayer life so they have someone to turn to when they’re lost.
As parents, we have a big responsibility to act like things don’t bother us. It is our job to be the steady in our children’s lives. What’s more important; pointing out flaws, or accepting them?
No matter how uncool we are, our kids return to us when they feel loved. Do you kids ever go to you for a snuggle or a chat when they’re having a rough day or don’t feel well?
Respect is defined on Google Dictionary as “a feeling of deep admiration for someone…. or honor….” You can model this by showing your kids how to be respectful of grandparents and your spouse.
Raising kids takes courage; doing the right thing for our family, even if it’s tough. We often face scary decisions, including trying something new. All in the name of love.
I hope these 10 parenting quotes are inspiring to you!
Let 2018 be the year that your New Year’s resolution stuck the whole year. Even modeling one of these 10 virtues would be influential to your whole family!
We made it to December! What a great month to celebrate Christmas! Right after the month of being thankful, we celebrate a month of giving.
This warm season can be chaotic. Bake the cookies. Send the greeting cards. Select the tree. Decorate the house. Buy the gifts. Wrap the gifts. Visit Santa. Cook the nice dinner. Get everyone a nice outfit. Family Photos. Prepare for guests. And the list goes on.
So how can we keep Christ in Christmas?
As a Christian, growing up, I’ve stopped to think about all of the traditions that many families still hold today. Why on Earth do we chop down a tree to put inside? Why is Santa the mascot of the holiday? Why do we even give gifts if it’s Jesus’ birthday? Some of these seem silly, but many of our traditions are simple symbols of God’s presence and love.
I love these traditions that we still hold today! I love that our kids get so excited for what’s to come. They talk about how Santa expects good behavior. Even my 5-year-old thinks I’m going to get coal because I was teasing his little brother!
#1 thing I want to uphold for my family though is continuing to make religion a priority. I want my family to celebrate Jesus’ birth, knowing why they are celebrating. I want my family to become closer with God. Understanding this journey that took place over 2,000 years ago.
Did you know Jesus was the most influential person in the world? And that the Bible is the first book to be printed? Did you know that everything in the Bible was prophecy? And did you know that all scientific evidence points back to the Bible and God?
Our 5-year-old was writing his Christmas list to Santa yesterday. As I helped him spell it all out, we stopped at “Christ.” “Now underline it. What does that spell?” Once he knew, I helped him add on “mas.” I said “don’t forget who we are celebrating!”
Then we had to pick out a tree.
We just drove over to the tree farm recently. My husband wanted to explain the symbolism of the tree to the kids. What we were taught back in grade school is it’s triangular shape represents the trinity. It also represents new life. The star or angle on top represent the star that guided the shepherds and wise men.
This year the boys were able to assist us, with some very close supervision of course. I will always remember special moments around the holidays. By keeping tradition alive, we are keeping family even closer.
Here are 20 ways the whole family can all keep Christ in Christmas:
Pray for someone in need of God or an intention
Open our hearts to God more/Let Him know your every feeling
Teach your child different ways they can pray/things they can pray for
Take your family to church as often as possible all year long
Read the nativity story from the Bible more than once
Put on Christmas songs about Jesus and Mary
Make an Advent Calendar or wreath
Be more positive. You are blessed.
Make a donation(s)
Be respectful and listen
Do good deeds for each other, small or large
Put the phones away until a better time, for quality time
3-5 gift rule per kid (i.e. book, toy, outfit, art/science kit, and game)