The Tired Mom Fix (Besides Coffee)

The Tired Mom Fix (Besides Coffee)

To the tired Mom, you’re not alone!

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When you’re routinely running low on fumes, is it possible that you need a bigger change? Do any of these 3 areas of your life sound like something you could work on?

  • Mental
  • Physical
  • Spiritual

Over the past year or two I’ve noticed a huge change in myself. I went from the kind of Mom who would create with our son; play dough figures and paint pretty pictures. I would take him on trips to the playground. We danced a lot together. And we were always laughing together. I was the fun Mom!

And then I became a Mom of 2 more amazing little boys! My heart was so full of happiness that we all had each other. I didn’t realize I could be so in love.

….Then one day the baby was mobile. And soon they all decided that things in our house are more fun if they’re flying through the air. And messes are good. The messier, the better. And who doesn’t love a rowdy boy? I mean, if Spider-man can climb walls, why can’t they?

So, I grew tired. There is still only one of me (when my husband goes to work). Some days I want to beg him not to leave me here with all the craziness. But I don’t.

It took me a long time to realize that there is no magic fix-all for any of that. But, I needed to fix my weary self. And I knew other tired Moms need to as well. So I created the 21 Day Challenge on my Facebook page, Mommas Group. This challenge was created to help tired Moms to become positive, energized, and reconnected. And over all, the goal is for you to feel rejuvenated.

All you need is 10-20 minutes a day minimum, or more if you need it.

 

The 21 Day Challenge is split up into 3 weekly smaller goals:

Week 1: Positive Mind

Week 2: Energize Body

Week 3: Reconnect Spiritually

 

Week 1: Positive Mind

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  • Be positive (Let go of the Mom guilt)
  • Get help (Chore charts & teamwork)
  • Organize (A clean and clear house allows the same in your mind)

A big portion of us being tired is trying to do too much. Although have the world’s greatest intentions, we compare ourselves all the time. So let go of Mom guilt! Things change, and we just have to “go with the flow.”

Then, write a to-do list and divide that baby up! You can do it!

Small kids: pick up clothes and toys and dust

Preschool-aged kids: wipe table, chairs, cabinets, appliances, and windows

Kindergarten-aged kids: sweep, mop, vacuum, take care of pets, make their bed

Older kids: clean the toilet, wash dishes, and fold laundry

And lastly, clean up social media and emails (opt out of those subscriptions causing you to be distracted and unfriend negative people). Then organize an area of your house that really needs attention. It may just free up that nagging feeling every time you see that mess!

 

Week 2: Energize Body

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Make sure you’re putting nutritious food into your body. And swap out the juice and pop for water. Keep healthy snacks on hand like almonds, berries, apples, carrot sticks, cut up celery and cucumbers…. Making simple switches can dramatically change how you feel.

Enjoy a detox bath with essential oil and epsom salt (only try this once this week, while drinking plenty of water). 20 minutes of exercise per day will get your blood circulating and release endorphins, which is alsoo a plus. You’re looking for a good sweat, though, to detox. Make sure to hydrate well!

No skimping on sleep either. You need 7-9 hours! According to sleepfoundation.org, the right amount of sleep can regulate your mood, hormones, immune system, and also improves cognitive function and memory. Still tired? Take a 10-20 minute mid-day nap to freshen-up!

 

Week 3: Reconnect Spiritually

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  • Reconnect inwardly (meditation, yoga, tranquil music, quiet time…)
  • Reconnect spiritually (daily devotions, prayer, music, thought-provoking,faith-based movies)

This is probably the most important week. Try one of the many different types of meditation. Also, set aside some quiet time for thoughts and focus.

You may also read daily devotions. I have a book called “Jesus Calling,” which I feel that I can apply to my every day life. And even more straight-forward- you can and should set aside some time for prayer. Even enjoy Christian music or movie!

These should all guide you into a stronger spirituality, which will then make you a stronger Mom. I mean, who is able to always handle stress on their own? It’s nice to turn to faith when we are feeling extra blessed, and sometimes when we are desperate!

 

Want to start your 21 Day Challenge for rejuvenation?

HERE are 3 printouts, that go week-by-week.

 

Week 1: Positive Mind

Week 2: Energize Body

Week 3: Reconnect Spiritually

 

 

If you feel that you’d get the most from combining all 3 weeks tasks throughout the whole 21 days (instead of split up week by week), then feel free to choose items off of each list that would be challenging and helpful.

Example of how to combine all for 21 days: 

  • List positives & Do something for yourself
  • Drink more water & Rest for 10-20 minutes mid-day
  • Read Daily Devotions & Listen to Christian music

Set aside 10-20 minutes of alone time in the morning, mid-day, and evening.

Morning: read daily devotional, while getting a head start on drinking water

Mid-day: rest 10-20 minutes, list positives in life

Evening: Take a bubble bath while listening to Christian music

 

You don’t have to be a tired Mom any more. Sometimes you skimp on what you need because of what your family needs. But a Mom who has been taken care of, can also take care of her family.

 

 

 

 

 

*I am not a doctor. Please always consult with your physician first to address mental or physical health needs!

Keeping Christ in Christmas

Keeping Christ in Christmas

We made it to December! What a great month to celebrate Christmas! Right after the month of being thankful, we celebrate a month of giving.

This warm season can be chaotic. Bake the cookies. Send the greeting cards. Select the tree.  Decorate the house. Buy the gifts. Wrap the gifts. Visit Santa. Cook the nice dinner. Get everyone a nice outfit. Family Photos. Prepare for guests. And the list goes on.

So how can we keep Christ in Christmas?

As a Christian, growing up, I’ve stopped to think about all of the traditions that many families still hold today. Why on Earth do we chop down a tree to put inside? Why is Santa the mascot of the holiday? Why do we even give gifts if it’s Jesus’ birthday? Some of these seem silly, but many of our traditions are simple symbols of God’s presence and love.

I love these traditions that we still hold today! I love that our kids get so excited for what’s to come. They talk about how Santa expects good behavior. Even my 5-year-old thinks I’m going to get coal because I was teasing his little brother!

#1 thing I want to uphold for my family though is continuing to make religion a priority. I want my family to celebrate Jesus’ birth, knowing why they are celebrating. I want my family to become closer with God. Understanding this journey that took place over 2,000 years ago.

Did you know Jesus was the most influential person in the world? And that the Bible is the first book to be printed? Did you know that everything in the Bible was prophecy? And did you know that all scientific evidence points back to the Bible and God?

For Starters

Our 5-year-old was writing his Christmas list to Santa yesterday. As I helped him spell it all out, we stopped at “Christ.” “Now underline it. What does that spell?” Once he knew, I helped him add on “mas.” I said “don’t forget who we are celebrating!”

Then we had to pick out a tree.

We just drove over to the tree farm recently. My husband wanted to explain the symbolism of the tree to the kids. What we were taught back in grade school is it’s triangular shape represents the trinity. It also represents new life. The star or angle on top represent the star that guided the shepherds and wise men.

This year the boys were able to assist us, with some very close supervision of course. I will always remember special moments around the holidays. By keeping tradition alive, we are keeping family even closer.

 

 

Here are 20 ways the whole family can all keep Christ in Christmas:

  • Pray for someone in need of God or an intention
  • Open our hearts to God more/Let Him know your every feeling
  • Teach your child different ways they can pray/things they can pray for
  • Take your family to church as often as possible all year long
  • Read the nativity story from the Bible more than once
  • Put on Christmas songs about Jesus and Mary
  • Make an Advent Calendar or wreath
  • Be more positive. You are blessed.
  • Make a donation(s)
  • Be respectful and listen
  • Do good deeds for each other, small or large
  • Put the phones away until a better time, for quality time
  • 3-5 gift rule per kid (i.e. book, toy, outfit, art/science kit, and game)
  • Let your child buy/make gifts for family/friends
  • Let your child make cards for family/friends
  • Let your kids act out the nativity scene
  • Craft your own nativity scene
  • Explain who St.Nick is
  • Explain why the Christmas Tree is symbolic
  • Explain the gifts of the wise men and the significance of each

 

Try to enjoy the whole month of December, even as chaotic as it will be! And don’t forget the real reason for the season!

 

 

 

Have your kids do this when a siren goes by

Have your kids do this when a siren goes by

Do you often hear emergency sirens throughout your day? What goes through your mind? Do you wonder who the first responders are going to help?  Do your kids ask you about it?

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My 5th grade teacher taught us this one!

When you and your kids hear a siren, (whether an ambulance, police car, fire truck, and sometimes life flight) stop what you are doing and say a prayer. Show your kids that people face challenges where complete strangers rally together for them.

You never know what those people or their families are currently facing. You don’t know if an ambulance is rushing to the scene of a fatal accident. You don’t know if a police man is about to answer a domestic disturbance call.

In our household, every time we hear a siren, we say a quick prayer for the first responders and the people they are going to help (as well as their families).

I have never publicly shared this, but in 5 years time, my family has received help from EMS, police, and firefighters on separate occasions. I am eternally grateful to those kind strangers. And a couple of times, we’ve had many of friends of friends praying for us. It felt so amazing to know that people were doing all they could do. And it worked.

If you haven’t been through these types of situations, you don’t want to ever go through this. But, how good would it feel to teach your child to pray for a family in need?

This is a fine lesson in teaching compassion!

Thank you to all the men and women who serve your communities in this way!

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